I have been attending interviews for summer internships and I am always asked the same group of questions. What are your achievements, grades, classes, qualifications and experiences? I don't believe the questions really encompasses who I am. I can only imagine how difficult it is to be an interviewer because all the questions are the same and candidates answer what they believe the interviewer is looking for. I hypothesize that most participants have the similar answers. How do people even differentiate between people? How should I define myself and justly represent my self within the few minutes that I have and how do interviewers define me? The interviews reminded me of the activity we did in class when we were asked to define ourselves and our identity. During the exercise, I thought about tofu and elephant. Tofu is soft and wiggly. People look at tofu and assume that it is gross and think asian cuisines, which people think toads and cats chopped and marinated in soy sauce. But tofu is soft, versatile, it can be added to any dish and still be great. When people think protein, they think steak and big portions of meat, but tofu is higher in protein and very nutritious. Tofu might fall apart but even in pieces it still is great; similarly, sometimes I get frazzled, but I am all about solving the problem as soon as humanly possible and moving past the problem.
People look at elephants and all they see is a big, gray animal, that makes ivory. They do not see the beautiful and intelligent creatures, all they see is money. People have hunted elephants and nearly caused them to be extinct. However elephants are so amazing and instead of killing them, people should be learning from them. Elephants are matriarchal, gentle, compassionate and always remember where they were born and where they come from. Elephants might look big, intimating and stupid, but they are the complete opposite and we probably look small and stupid to elephants.
People look at me and expect me to be quiet and complicit with everything, I think it's largely because I am Chinese and I am a nice person. There are expectations paste onto me, even before people meet me. Interviewers look at my name and they think asian, overachiever and obedient. However, when I behave differently from the expectations, people have difficultly acknowledging and processing the difference. I am extremely passionate about human rights and I have a soft spot for immigrants, children and the elderly. When people think it is okay to victimize Chinese grandmas on the train and I assertively ask them how ashamed or disgusted do they think their mom or grandma would be, they suddenly have difficulty understanding my english. People tend to ignore my words when I speak assertively or they try to discount my opinion.
I wonder what would happen if during an interview I was asked to definite myself and I said tofu or elephant. Most likely I would not get the job because the interviewer would have a difficult time digesting my answer. The interviewers expect answers along the lines of adjectives that paint an ambitious and consistent candidate. Instead of taking the time to internalize the answer and decide whether there is merit, people would just brush it aside. We live in a world were there are expectations for everything. The interviewers expect certain frame of answers and I expect certain type of questions. We expect things from people and it is difficult to digesting anything different. People have to consciously attempt to internalize anything different. We have become a robotic society where there are expectations and identities are copied and pasted on bodies. Unfortunately, there is very little room made for the weird and the funky.
